How to transform what you are feeling to what you are choosing to feel

It’s inside your head. Those negative, degrading, life-sapping thoughts. How did they get there? You claim a bunch of things. Stress is building, your emotions are all over the place and you are having trouble processing what’s true progress. How do you transform what you are feeling to what you are choosing to feel? In as little as 10 minutes, here is how you can make that transformation yourself.

This week started off like many. Working part time at the bakery, following up with meal prep clients and delivering meals, spending time writing for my consulting work and enjoying quality time with my boyfriend while he is working remotely for the week. A few factors were different.

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I’ve gotten less sleep, I’ve been doing more self-analysis for me and my businesses and I am in a new workout training protocol and believe I injured my shoulder and/or trap muscle from over training and not stretching and recovering like I should. I was not letting it get to me and felt like I was doing a good job mitigating that stress and channeling it to my work and being more productive each day. Until Wednesday.

I awoke groggy after catching up a bit on hours of sleep. Did some yoga instead of cardio and just felt more pain. I focused on some daily action items, completed them and headed to lunch with my new Atlanta friend Haley! She is a young female entrepreneur and we like to bounce ideas off of one another when we talk. She sparked some things in my head that for some reason, I’ve just NOT done.

I have not good excuse. I just have not added them onto my priority list. They fell way down on the to-do list instead. That is a list I no longer check because I’m working each day to balance work, health and love. I refuse to live by an ever-growing to-do list.

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After we enjoyed lunch at True Food Kitchen, it dawned on me. I can accomplish many things. And I have many role models I look up to. But am I really making the steps necessary to create the life I want, with a successful career, loving relationship and balanced health?

I began overthinking. It’s all in my head–again. This mentality remained as I went to the gym to attempt training shoulders. This was a mistake.

I could barely get a workout in. My mindset was not “there”. And it made me feel many things. Some of the feelings included, “broken, exhausted, unorganized, and unimpactful.”

I got home to finally see David for the day and my energy was not positive. It was not the right way to come home to my boyfriend. He left for the gym himself and I could tell I’d created a unwanted barrier. Who wouldn’t?

I had two choices. I could stay wallowing in my negative, mopey feelings. I could also transform what I was feeling into what I choose to feel. Here’s how I did it and you can too.

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Step 1: Take out a bright colored marker and blank sheet of paper. No joke, I grabbed a hot pink marker and paper and sat on the floor in the office. It’s said children are the most happy, creative humans. Why? If I got to color and imagine all day, that’d surely change my spirits!

Step 2: Acknowledge and write down what you feel you are in that moment. As you read some of my feelings above, I wrote them all out, 13 total. I read through them a few times and say them aloud.

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Step 3: Reverse psychology by turning what you feel into writing that you are not those things. I first wrote down “I am broken.” Now, below those words, I write each of them with the statement “I am NOT” in front of it. Therefore, I went from “I am broken” to “I am NOT broken”. Do this for every single feeling or word. Say them aloud.

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Step 4: Shift from what you are NOT to what you CHOOSE to be! This was the most enlightening part of the exercise. Now that you have acknowledge every single feeling and that you are NOT them, write what you CHOOSE to be. I ended up writing 10.

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And next to it, I drew a heart and wrote “Today, Tomorrow, Every Day” and the date. Say these aloud and do so with a smile. It is proven that even if you force a smile, chemicals within your brain will bring you relief and make you feel content and closer to feeling happy.

After this exercise, I took a few deep breaths and believed what I wrote. And felt amazing! We all have the ability to choose how we feel. Never let a moment pass you by to choose your transformation and feel amazing.

Let me know how it feels for you or if you have additional habits that may benefit me or others.